One of the commonest problems that couples who live in large cities face is their inability to have sex frequently enough to make a baby. This means that the reason for the ” infertility ” for many of these couples is not a medical problem but social infertility.
This is true across many different groups.
Busy, ambitious professionals are so wrapped up in pursuing promotions, that they barely get to see each other, forget about having sex ! The husband wants to become a CEO, and is busy flying off to different cities for business meetings. The wife is so busy working in the office that when they do finally get together in the night for dinner, they are too tired to do anything other than flop into bed. Even when they are together at home, even though they are physically present, they are often mentally and emotionally absent, so sex is the last thing on their mind. A determined wife will track her ovulation and force her spouse to have well-time baby-making sex, but this often fails because he is too tired to be able to perform on demand.
Weekdays are so packed with professional commitments that all they want to do when they get home is binge watch Netflix and catch up on their sleep, so they can start a new day tomorrow . This continues week after week , because new work problems crop up all the time, and super-achievers want to have their cake and eat it too.
Weekends are supposed to be more relaxed, but the ovaries aren’t obliging enough to ovulate only on the weekend to suit the couple’s convenience ! Also, weekends are used for running errands, making sure the house is run properly, and meeting friends and family members , which means these super-busy couples really don’t have any time for themselves . The very rich try to solve this by taking holiday breaks, but this can be hard to fit into an over-packed schedule !
Interestingly, this problem of social infertility is not restricted only to high-flying professionals. It’s also a huge problem for poor workers , who need to migrate to large cities in order to earn a living . This means they can only spend about 1 – 2 months every year with their wife , and because they aren’t able to spend enough time together , they are not able to get pregnant . This is equally true, whether they migrate to the Middle East in order to earn more money, or travel from a small village in Bihar to Mumbai in order to make ends meet.
It’s also a surprisingly common problem for the poor who live in slums . They really don’t have enough privacy to be able to have sex – after all, when you are living in a 10 foot by 10 foot room with 8 other people , it’s hard to feel romantic !
These cruel facts mean that couples who would have been happily able to have many babies, remain childless because of their social issues. Many are forced to seek medical assistance, which is such a tragedy.
For busy professionals, we offer a simple solution. Rather than try to schedule sex in the night when going to bed , when both are so tired that all they want to do is fall asleep as soon as possible, we suggest they plan to have an early morning quickie !
Most men have an early morning erection , and we suggest the couple have a quick shower together before leaving for work. They are clean and lathered, and it’s easier to have intercourse when you are fresh ! Not only is this a great way to start your day , it also means that you most probably won’t need to seek expensive medical help. I remind my patients that it’s much more fun making a baby in their bedroom than coming to me !
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