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I’ve been reflecting on the role of AI in education, particularly how parents and educators can harness its potential without relinquishing their roles as guides and mentors. It’s a delicate balance, akin to walking a tightrope. On one side, there’s the allure of AI as an all-knowing tutor, ready to step in whenever a child hits a roadblock. On the other, there’s the risk of abdicating our responsibilities, letting AI take over entirely as we sit back, perhaps too grateful for the quiet it brings.
The other day, I watched a parent at my clinic, scrolling through her phone as her child sat beside her, engrossed in a learning app. The scene struck me as both hopeful and cautionary. AI, when used well, can indeed act as a library at our fingertips. But too often, it becomes a digital babysitter, a stand-in for real human interaction. It’s a pattern I’ve noticed often — the pendulum swings wildly from a complete ban on screens to an over-reliance on them as educational crutches.
This is where Holt’s test comes into play: Is the child engaged in something real, driven by their own question, with an adult nearby who genuinely cares? Or have we replaced the guiding adult with a voice that never tires, never sighs, never rolls its eyes at the simplicity of the question? AI, no matter how advanced, cannot replicate the nuances of human understanding and empathy.
In my experience, AI’s greatest utility lies in its patience. It doesn’t tire of explaining concepts, doesn’t get frustrated when asked to repeat itself. This is invaluable, especially for children who might feel shame or embarrassment asking an adult the same question multiple times. AI can offer a story, a picture, a translation into a home language, or a simpler path. It removes the stigma of not understanding on the first go.
But to truly benefit from AI, certain rules of use must be adhered to. First, the child must initiate the question. It’s vital that they own their learning process. You can’t just paste the homework into the tool and demand completion. A prompt like “I don’t get why the image in a plane mirror is laterally inverted” is far more effective than “explain chapter light.” It’s about agency — the child must try, fail, and then seek help.
For younger children, an adult should be present in the room — not hovering or micromanaging, but available. For older children, the adult should be accessible, ready to step in when needed. The AI should serve as a companion to the task, not the task itself. This means encouraging the child to return to their work after resolving a doubt, ensuring they remain engaged with the material at hand.
Another critical aspect is avoiding gamification. Many educational apps incentivize streaks, rewarding continuous use without breaks. This breeds performance anxiety rather than genuine learning. A streak is merely a performance in a game, not an indicator of true understanding. If an answer seems incorrect or superficial, encourage the child to ask again. Persistence is key, and asking again is a skill worth cultivating.
When using AI tools, it’s beneficial to sit together initially and use specific phrases to guide the interaction. Sentences like “Explain this as you would to a Class 7 student who has read the page and is stuck” or “Give me a kitchen example from an Indian house, not a textbook example” maintain the child’s role as the agent of their learning. These prompts ask for engagement, not a lecture. They also refuse full solutions, encouraging the child to struggle productively. An AI can’t make this judgment — only you can, because you can see the child’s face and recognize their understanding or confusion.
And here’s a question worth pondering: If the AI were a tutor sitting in your living room, would you leave the room? This question strikes at the heart of the issue. It forces us to consider our comfort levels with AI as a surrogate for human interaction and mentorship. AI can be a powerful ally in education, but only if we remain actively involved, guiding and interpreting its input and ensuring it complements rather than supplants our roles.
In my work both as an IVF specialist and an angel investor, I’ve learned that technology, while a formidable tool, is not a panacea. In medicine, no machine can replace the nuanced decisions a doctor must make, guided by experience and empathy. Similarly, in startups, technology must serve to enhance human creativity and decision-making, not replace it.
The same holds true for education. The true potential of AI in learning lies in its ability to augment human interaction, not replace it. It’s a message I’ve shared with founders I’ve mentored: technology should empower, not overshadow, human agency. It’s something I believe in deeply, whether I’m advising on a fertility treatment plan or evaluating a startup pitch.
As parents and educators, our role is to remain present, to guide, and to ensure that AI serves as a resource, not a replacement. We must ensure that the child remains at the center of their learning journey, with AI as a supportive tool rather than a surrogate teacher. It’s a delicate balance to strike, but one that is crucial for the development of independent, curious, and resilient learners.
So let’s embrace AI, but with caution and thoughtfulness. Let’s use it to explain, to illustrate, and to inspire, but never to replace the essential human elements of empathy, patience, and understanding. Because at the end of the day, education is not just about imparting knowledge — it’s about nurturing curiosity and fostering a lifelong love for learning.